She tried it. No he didn’t. What did you say? That is exactly what I thought as I was confronted with a situation that was meant to hurt, shame and agitate me. My heart said pray, my ego was amused, and my home girl said you’re justified either way. If you chose to go off you can or if you chose to take the high road you can. I could see her through the phone trying to determine if we were reaching for our bibles or our black jogging suits just in case we needed to set it off.???????
Seriously, let’s be clear. My ego was amused because I know all the words that everyone else knows to hurt people, to belittle them, and to infuriate them. I was verbally abused as a child. I learned how to use words to cut people to the core. I used to use my words as a way to defend myself, to protect myself, and to not only hurt people but to annihilate them. Years of prayer, mentorship and love has taught me how to communicate in healthy ways. When I was finishing people mortal combat style I didn’t like the way I felt about myself, I couldn’t take back how I made people feel, and I knew there was a lot more to me than that. Through my work I learned that when you know better you are charged to do better.
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” -1st Corinthians 13:11
If you are a believer, there will always be an opportunity to practice your faith. No matter what you believe, you will be tried. You have to determine if you are going to let someone else have power over you. You give them power by lowering your standards or “clapping back” in their language. Conflict is inevitable. How you handle it is your choice. What is the lie? The lie is that someone MADE you respond or react a certain way. Your reactions are your choice. Misery loves company. Just because misery shows up at your door doesn’t mean that you have to let it in.